Korea Times
photo by Choi Won-suk
For Choi
Kwang-hyouk, 29, living on his own in North Korea was like living somewhere
without a roof or pillars.
"I always felt I was wet, because there was no roof to
cover my head; you feel alone," Choi said. "The loneliness was worse
than the hunger," he said, at his current residence in Anyang, Gyeonggi
Province on Monday.
Choi, originally from North Korea, was a child beggar who
lived on his own since he was eight or nine years old, when neither his
grandparents nor his parents could afford to take care of him especially after
the 1995 famine that killed a huge number of North Koreans.
It has been 15 years since he fled to South Korea, and Choi
is now a senior at the Korea National University of Welfare and among the proud
17 members of the country's ice sledge hockey national team. He hopes to
eventually play at the 2018 Winter Paralympics Games in PyeongChang. The sport
is playing ice hockey on a sledge. He was enjoying three days off from national
training at the time of the interview.
Ice sledge hockey is one of the most popular Paralympic
sports, and Choi, who lost his left foot as a child beggar, is one of the first
North Korean defectors to bear the Korean national flag. North Korean defectors
began arriving in increasing numbers in the late 1990s; the Seoul government
said the figure is expected to reach 30,000 in November.
Choi became a national player this June. Asked what has
changed since then, he said, "Not much," laughing. For him, becoming
a national player has given him new affirmative goals — to popularize the sport
for those who are physically challenged and to win at the Winter Games. Does he
want to win gold? "Ha ... I think all athletes have that wish," he
replied.
These are hard-found goals for Choi, who also had to live on
his own after arriving in South Korea in 2001. They are what keep him in line,
even when he feels unstable, pressured and stressed.
Born in Hwaseong, North Hamgyeong Province in 1987, Choi was
raised by his maternal grandparents, who passed away owing to the famine in
1995 that killed about three million North Koreans. Choi thought he would go
back to his parents to live with them, but family misfortune did not allow it,
and he was forced to seek food, clothing and shelter on his own, begging in
Yongban, North Korea. He was among the countless child beggars in the country.
"I spent about five or six years begging for
food," Choi said. He said even within the world of child beggars, there
are certain rules and strata. One first starts with begging, then moves on to
stealing food and ultimately, to pickpocketing. He admitted that he reached the
top, where nobody in North Hamgyeong Province would touch him. He said, "I
didn't like to lose, I was fearless and I had guts," adding that his
experience as a child beggar serves him now as he plays ice sledge hockey. He said
he was never a model person, but that's what kept him alive.
He was selling ice cream on trains when he fell off of one,
hurting his ankle while fleeing authorities. He was lucky to go to a hospital,
but they had to cut off his left foot without anesthesia.
"I remember that surgery clearly. It didn't hurt much
when they sawed the bone, but when they were sawing through the skin, that
hurt," Choi said. "I thought I was going to die," he said.
He said those were his worst days as a child beggar, and
they went on for two years. "Then, I only begged for food," he said.
He was sent back to Hwaseong to an orphanage, but he escaped because the
noodles they rationed there were less than what he could obtain from begging.
He said those were dark times, when he saw many deaths,
especially public executions. "In North Korea, they execute publicly. And
family members dare not cry, for they too would be taken away," he said.
He said he felt that people there were full of madness or
some hard-core brittle energy to survive. "Human life was worth less than
that of a cow, as the cow did all the hard work in the absence of machinery
(and thus, was more valuable)," he said.
Choi said he was still on the streets of Yongban also in
Hamgyeong Province when a stranger approached him and told him his family was
looking for him. At that time, there were rumors that people were buying
children to sell their organs. But, Choi said, he was so tired and he thought "come
what may." So he went with the woman, who took him to his uncle, someone
he'd seen several times as a child, and with his uncle, crossed the Tumen River
to China. But his uncle put him in a taxi alone to Yanji. "I was like,
‘Why?'" The uncle said he would go back to the North to bring back Choi's
younger sister, and he did.
He arrived in South Korea in August 2001. He met with his
father, who had remarried. He tried to live with his father and stepmother, but
he could not get along with the latter, so he went to live at a South Korean
orphanage. "When I first met my father (in South Korea), I felt safe for
the first time. But that was a misjudgment," he said. He did not specify
as to why his parents now are remarried and living with their new respective
families. He said he now has three step-sisters.
Listening to the story of how he moved from an orphanage to
his uncle's place and then again to community housing for North Korean
defectors was like reading a dramatic novel. It was a reality far removed from
the fast-paced modern South Korea, where the news screams of unprecedented
unemployment rates and a gloomy future. As he told his story, his eyes
sometimes welled up, but he also laughed a lot in between.
Choi said he was rebellious and full of rage at that time,
especially during middle and high school.
"I remember even when on the streets in North Korea, it
was the gentle-spirited who first disappeared or died," he said. "I
also learned that when you start to bow, people will continue to target
you."
He said his middle and high school days in South Korea were
filled with discrimination. "I remember, they looked at me like a novel
being, and when the people stared, especially at the physically challenged, it
was like they want to stare at you until you are out of their sight," he
said.
Only in the South did he start blaming his parents for his
difficulties. "Back in the North, I just had to worry about my next meal,
for my survival," he said.
But never one to back down, he fought off rude people. After
his unstable middle and high school days in South Korea, during which he said
he drank heavily and played a lot ofcomputer games, he tried to get back his
spirit. Now, when he trains, he is not allowed to drink.
"I think it was one morning after I had emerged from
playing computer games all day at a PC-bang. I smelled of smoke as I walked
past other people, South Koreans, on their way to work on a bright day,"
he said. He said that morning reminded him of his days as a child beggar, dirty
and aimless, and resolved to graduate high school and thought about his future.
"It was like I was in a never-ending maze, without an exit."
He entered college, the Korea National University of Welfare
in Pyeongtaek, Gyeonggi Province, in 2011, and learned how to make medical
prosthetics. Then he started the novel sport ice sledge hockey in September
2014 upon recommendation of a school official.
"Ice sledge hockey, it is a very macho game. It allows
for body check and stick check, which is a good fit for my personality,"
he said.
At 160 centimeters, Choi looks fit and slim. When training,
he works 10 hours a day, of which about two hours are designated for weight
training. His diet mainly consists of Korean food, and his team eats meat about
three times a week. Having been introduced late to the game, though, he admits
he feels stressed trying to catch up. Choi struggles with the theories of ice
sledge hockey just as he struggles with the theories of his major in college.
"These days, I try to do image training, by thinking of
(and visualizing) how Korea's No.1 ice sledge hockey player Jeong Seung-whan
plays.
Choi lives alone. His younger sister is married and living
in Bucheon. He was miraculously reunited with his mother, who now lives in
Suwon with her new family, in 2014, through a television program that reunites
long-lost family members.
Does he feel like he lives in a house with a roof and
pillars or walls around him now?
"Yes, somewhat shabby and leaking, but yes," he
said.
"PyeongChang is what keeps me focused. And having been
through all that I have been through, I want to tell those who are physically
challenged to know that there is more than sadness or limits to a physical
challenge. You can only feel the stress when you are alive. To the North Korean
defectors whom I know are going through great mental stress, I want to tell
them to let their time of wandering in the South be as short as it can
be," he said.
After PyeongChang, Choi said he is debating whether to take
part in the next winter games. So what is his long-term plan in the South? Choi
who is single wants to get married soon, and spend his future making prosthetic
equipment for children.
"I dare say, to be able to at least buy what my
children ask for," he said.